Saturday 4 November 2017

How to Be and Remain Blind in Love


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Almost everyone has a chance of falling in love once in their life. Young love is often mind-blowing and you do not want the moment to end. I have even heard people say, ‘I wish this moment could last forever’.  

There is always a chance for a happily ever after but the feeling is never the same as the first moment of falling in love. 


One of the greatest writers in history, William Shakespeare wrote poems and books about love and he severally referred to love as blind. In Merchant of Venice, Act 2 Scene 6 - A young girl called Jessica elopes from her father’s house disguised as a boy to be with her boyfriend Lorenzo. Here is what she says:
 
JESSICA
…But love is blind, and lovers cannot see
The pretty follies that themselves commit,
For if they could Cupid himself would blush
To see me thus transform to a boy.

In yet another of his great books Romeo and Juliet, Act 2 Scene 1 – Mercutio and Benvolio are out in the dark looking for Romeo who has gone to meet with Juliet. However, they mock his love saying it is blind to mean that it is not real. When in fact, Romeo's love for Juliet was real and he was ready to do anything for her.

BENVOLIO
Come, he hath hid among these trees,
To consort with the humorous night.
Blind is his love and best befits the dark.

MERCUTIO
If love is blind, love cannot hit the mark.
Now will he sit under a medlar tree
And wish his mistress were that kind of fruit
As maids call medlars when they laugh alone.—
O Romeo, that she was! Oh, that she was
An open arse, and thou a poperin pear.
Romeo, good night. I’ll to my truckle bed.
This field-bed is too cold for me to sleep.—
Come, shall we go?

Love can certainly cause someone to do very unusual things just to be with them. Now my point of concern is what happens after the honeymoon period? Do you suddenly begin to see or just get comfortable with having a lover?



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Today, I want to pose a challenge to everyone in a relationship it does no matter at what stage you are. I believe that love never dies and to get to the point you ask - where did the love go to? It means that; you either never fully understood what love is or what you had was a temporary connection but not love. (1 Corinthians 13:8-10)

My challenge is, for you to wake up each morning looking at your lover as a person you have just met. Ignoring everything about them and being ready to discover them a new. 

Imagine how great it would be to start on a clean slate every day? No leftovers of arguments from yesterday or judgment of character based on past mistakes. It would be you falling in love each morning and looking forward to the rest of your life which you will create each day.

“First best is falling in love. The second best is being in love. The least best is falling out of love. But any of it is better than never having been in love.”
Maya Angelou

Try out the challenge and tell us how it goes. In case you have other ideas and challenges share them with us. We would love to hear from you.


 

4 comments:

  1. Challenge accepted Tabz. This is very inspiring. Falling in love each new day with no leftovers of arguments and character based on past mistakes, I LOVE THAT.

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    1. Try it on and you will see how lovely it is.

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  2. I totally agree with you Tabitha. The moment love starts fading away, that is the time that the involved need to remember how they related when they fell in love. This is the right time for them to revert back and view each other with renewed love.

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  3. True, but then if you constantly cultivated the relationship and started on a clean slate daily then the love would never fade.

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